Advice: How to make a good impression on a first date with Date Night's single girl
I fully admit that I am Seinfeld-levels picky. Here are some tips on how to avoid getting an unflattering nickname.
Tip #1: Look like your best you. I don't mean put on a suit and tie or anything fancy. Really, just look like you put some effort into looking nice for me, like you care about the impression you make. Let me emphasize that cleanliness goes a long way. Please no t-shirts with holes, no pants with odd stains, no fleece unless it's outerwear, and no greasy hair. If you're in a bad way (like if you wear socks in your sandals), consult your female or gay male friends on your fashion sins and let them help you - they probably have been aching to for a while. On the other hand, don't be too caught up in your looks because then I will judge you to be a preening asshole who cares more about his hair products and shiny watch than about having fun. Balance is key.
Tip #2: Make me laugh and be okay with laughing at yourself. I am easily amused, and I am turned on more by wordplay and banter than I am by compliments (although those are nice too). I will forgive a date many things if he is quick-witted and a good sport.
Tip #3: Show up on time. Feel free to be early. Being late tells me that you don't value my time.
Tip #4: Make eye contact. I don't trust guys who can't sustain eye contact. I don't want to have a staring contest, but making eye contact with me lets me feel that what you say is genuine.
Tip #5: Be extraordinarily polite to the bartender, waiter, or whoever is serving us. I personally think everyone in the United States should have to work three months in a customer service job so they know how hard a job it is and appreciate what these people have to put up with. If there's cause to complain, do so politely.
Finally, all-important Tip #6: Assuming you're setting up the date, know that where you choose to take me can help or hurt you, and you want it to help you. The way it will help you is if the place both reflects your personality and tastes and will put me at ease. The first part is key because you want to feel comfortable there not flustered. The place should flatter the type of person you are: outdoorsy guys have done well with a low-key burger place with a great beer selection while urbanites have more success with a cool sushi joint or hipster bar - and I've had great times at both. The second part matters because considerate guys go far with me and I will have a better time if I feel like I fit in too. In other words, avoid North Beach and the Marina unless you know exactly what you're doing. If you really want the cheat sheet, you can consult our upcoming restaurant-date pairing.
(I'm sure I'll come up with more tips, or gripes, later.)
Tip #1: Look like your best you. I don't mean put on a suit and tie or anything fancy. Really, just look like you put some effort into looking nice for me, like you care about the impression you make. Let me emphasize that cleanliness goes a long way. Please no t-shirts with holes, no pants with odd stains, no fleece unless it's outerwear, and no greasy hair. If you're in a bad way (like if you wear socks in your sandals), consult your female or gay male friends on your fashion sins and let them help you - they probably have been aching to for a while. On the other hand, don't be too caught up in your looks because then I will judge you to be a preening asshole who cares more about his hair products and shiny watch than about having fun. Balance is key.
Tip #2: Make me laugh and be okay with laughing at yourself. I am easily amused, and I am turned on more by wordplay and banter than I am by compliments (although those are nice too). I will forgive a date many things if he is quick-witted and a good sport.
Tip #3: Show up on time. Feel free to be early. Being late tells me that you don't value my time.
Tip #4: Make eye contact. I don't trust guys who can't sustain eye contact. I don't want to have a staring contest, but making eye contact with me lets me feel that what you say is genuine.
Tip #5: Be extraordinarily polite to the bartender, waiter, or whoever is serving us. I personally think everyone in the United States should have to work three months in a customer service job so they know how hard a job it is and appreciate what these people have to put up with. If there's cause to complain, do so politely.
Finally, all-important Tip #6: Assuming you're setting up the date, know that where you choose to take me can help or hurt you, and you want it to help you. The way it will help you is if the place both reflects your personality and tastes and will put me at ease. The first part is key because you want to feel comfortable there not flustered. The place should flatter the type of person you are: outdoorsy guys have done well with a low-key burger place with a great beer selection while urbanites have more success with a cool sushi joint or hipster bar - and I've had great times at both. The second part matters because considerate guys go far with me and I will have a better time if I feel like I fit in too. In other words, avoid North Beach and the Marina unless you know exactly what you're doing. If you really want the cheat sheet, you can consult our upcoming restaurant-date pairing.
(I'm sure I'll come up with more tips, or gripes, later.)
posted by Candace at 10:43 AM
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